I live in Berkshire with my husband and my cat. Before committing to Selfkind, I worked for 12 years in the local charity sector, supporting people through my work with Citizens Advice. I continue to volunteer locally, giving back to the community that has given me so much. 

When I'm not working, I spend time in nature (woodland is my happy place), I watch films, I read daily, I like to knit in winter, I like a good pub quiz, I go to the gym and practice Pilates. And I have a very large collection of indoor plants. 

My story

For many years, I lived with a quiet but constant sense of fear. Anxiety, depression, low self-worth and deep body shame shaped how I moved through life. I struggled to ask for what I needed or even to believe I had the right to ask. I often felt invisible, unheard or misunderstood. 

I looked for help, through counselling, CBT, hypnotherapy and medication. Each one gave me something, a tool, some knowledge about my pain. 

But ultimately the feelings were still there. 

The core wounds remained untouched.

In 2020, something shifted. I was intorduced to a version of this parts work, and it landed like a soft but resounding "yes". It came at the right time and it helped me begin to do something I hadn't been able to do before: heal.

For the first time, I felt safe enough to find the parts of me that had been holding pain for decades. I learned to listen to them, and by doing that, trust in listening to myself. I begin to feel whole, safe, secure, strong.

Since then everything has changed. I've co-created women's circles, stepped away from work that no longer fit and into work that does, deepened my relationships, welcomed more joy, taken creative risks and learned to ask for what I need with clarity and calmness. 

Am I fully healed? No. But now I know how to understand my wounds, my triggers, why I overreact to certain situations. They are just parts of me that need my time, my compassion, my love.

And the biggest change. I finally know why I'm here. What I'm meant to do in this life:

• share this work with others

• support people in finding their own inner clarity

• help people heal what still hurts and remember who they truly are.

My Role

I'm not here to fix you. I'm here to walk alongside you while you find your own answers, the answers that already live inside you. 

That's my mission: to hold space for healing, with curiosity, acceptance and vulnerable honesty. To support you to find your own peace,  your own worth, your own purpose.

Testimonials

Ana, Norway

"Back in April, before we started, I often felt caught in loops of frustration, guilt, or confusion about my own reactions. By July, after the last session, I noticed I was responding to life with more calm and trust. I’m not free of challenges, but I don’t feel lost in them in the same way. My daily life feels clearer and has more structure. Even though I haven’t always been consistent in visiting my inner sacred space, I notice that the awareness is there, guiding my choices. In my work too, I feel more clarity about what I’m offering and where my energy goes."

Client J, Berkshire

"I’ve been working on myself for over 30 years and have experienced many different kinds of therapies and healing modalities. I would consider myself quite self-aware, but I was not expecting this work to be so powerful.  The work I did with my mentor, Astrid, opened up a part of me that I have always known existed, but which has been consigned to the back seat of my conscious awareness. The only way I can describe this work is that it facilitated the spiritual parts of me to come forward and allowed me to access a wisdom that emanates from my soul. I started the process feeling like an exile and outsider on planet earth which has been a painful theme throughout my life. As a result of this work, I now have a much richer and deeper understanding about myself and my gifts and a deep affection for myself and my path. My life is different now. I don’t feel as lonely in the world. I have an increased ability to love and honour myself - and to accept and cherish all parts of me. I am no longer willing to tailor myself to be ‘acceptable’ or to ‘fit in’ or to dismiss my gifts or think of myself as a misfit. And I learned that all my parts have great affection and love for me. If you have a chance to work with Astrid - take it!

Client K, New York

"[As a result of this programme,] I learned that I am never alone; that I am always supported. I learned that I have the power to see something through to the end even when it is challenging. I learned that I am NOT defective and do have access to my inner divinity. I learned that I have everything I need within me (which I kind of already knew but it was nice to be reminded and to practice accessing those resources)." 

Client O, Derbyshire

"I have always been wary of self help and anything that smacks of new age hippy claptrap but through working on myself with Astrid’s support and guidance I came to a better understanding of myself and my relationship with the world. Working through the programme enabled me to challenge some of the orthodoxies that I carried with me, and examine the worries and anxieties that have been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. It gave me access to tools that helped me through one of the most stressful and emotionally fraught periods of my life, encompassing grief, caring responsibilities and being a parent. It also empowered me to believe in a more positive assertive and confident version of myself. This culminated in me considering new ways of living and earning. I am grateful for the tools I learned and the way it helped me communicate more authentically."

Client N, London

"Under Astrid's mentorship, I embarked on a transformative journey of self-discovery, cultivating self-love and embracing self-acceptance. I gained a much deeper and more compassionate understanding of who I was, who I am, and who I am meant to be. The program also enabled me to approach the people in my life with greater compassion while firmly upholding my boundaries. I am most grateful for the ability to rediscover my inner peace as I face the world and all its curveballs."